My daughter-in-law didn’t cook big food, and my mother-in-law kept thinking: I used to die! Netizen: Is it a "year-old daughter-in-law who has become a mother-in-law" to change?

 8:47am, 26 June 2025

The Chinese New Year is the most likely day to have problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After 2024, a daughter-in-law was rumored by her mother-in-law not to cook big meals, do housework, and let her husband wash dishes. She said that she had been so hard as a daughter-in-law in the past. In this regard, the daughter-in-law said helplessly, why did the mother-in-law want her to take over the baton after suffering?

The daughter-in-law and mother-in-law were chanted by her mother-in-law after the New Year

It was just over the New Year. A daughter-in-law and mother-in-law had no choice but to say that she had never cooked her during the New Year and did not do housework, such as washing dishes, sweeping the floor, and trash... "In the past, my daughter-in-law and mother were dead, but you didn't cook big food and didn't do anything. I let my husband wash dishes, wouldn’t he be too proud?” The mother-in-law said that when she was a daughter-in-law, she had all the family affairs and had no time to sneak out..., so she thought that the daughter-in-law was the duty to die during the Chinese New Year. In this regard, the daughter-in-law expressed grievances that she wanted the daughter-in-law to take over because of her hardship?

Family affairs are everyone’s business! Why do women have troublesome?

Regarding the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over the Chinese New Year, Yuanqi.com also posted a message on the face fans' page to ask everyone's opinions. As soon as the post was posted, it caused a reply from a large netizen, saying that women have troublesome?

Most netizens favor their wives, saying that family affairs are everyone's business. "Because you are a daughter-in-law and not a daughter, the mother-in-law will always be a mother-in-law, and will not become a mother." "Ask a pig teammate to wash it, the old witch will not let it go, so the old witch will wash it yourself!" "What era is it! Family affairs are everyone's business, not women's business", "Because she cannot be the only one who suffers, there must be someone who picks up shit", "Old and stylist ideas are not desirable, this kind of thinking really makes people dare not marry", "Buy a dishwasher or who can't stand it or wash it on the wheel, ignore him! There is no salary," "The times are different now, there are New Year dishes to order! My son sometimes says, "Mom, we order this year, we order it this year." New Year’s food! Only with the pace of the times can the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be better”, “The mother-in-law who used to work hard and still bond, now she is greedy for "debt" to daughter-in-law! The daughter-in-law will be upgraded to mother-in-law after the debt is finished!”, “Because my daughter-in-law has been working as a mother-in-law for many years, cynical people have changed their minds because she is in her heart Imbalance, why doesn’t her daughter-in-law have to do family affairs like she used to be?”, “I am also a mother-in-law. My family is originally shared by my family. Nowadays, women also have to work and she will be tired even if they have to work”, “It is recommended to use free chopsticks for New Year’s dishes, and they don’t have to be cooked or washed, and everyone is happy.”

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Some netizens also supported their mother-in-law, saying that this is the duty of a daughter-in-law. "Then why do mother-in-law cook the daughter-in-law and the daughter-in-law have the nerve to eat?", "It's only been a few days a year, so it's okay to let the daughter-in-law cook the big meals.", "I'm also taking over from my mother-in-law. It won't be difficult to cook the big meals! I'm also hated by my mother-in-law, so it's good to change in the future. But on the second day of the Chinese New Year, I have to cook my sister-in-law and go back to her parents' home for a meal, which is a bit tiring, because I have to cook a table of dishes for one person at noon, but I think it's only busy once a year, so I can still do it. Accepted, "I also started preparing ingredients on the morning of New Year's Eve, ate them simply at noon (also cooked), and feasted in the evening. I paid my ancestors to my parents' home on the first day of the lunar month and went back to my parents' home on the second day of the lunar month... These are all things that I expected, so I can only adjust my own mind." "You can't do nothing if you are a daughter-in-law, right? Why do you complain so much? I first knew that it was so hard to do this as a daughter-in-law. Why do you still have to get married?"

There are also other outstanding netizens who have other insights, "I like to help others wear mourning and mourning before getting married! Who is talking about relationships now! You can have children without getting married, register your household registration, and get married. Just fools get married. You can ask for trouble when getting married. What can only be done after getting married. You can do what you can't do before getting married, and you only have an affair and divorce! And you also have to help others wear mourning and keep your spirit, be a white qin ……""In fact, it is not just the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who has this problem, but even some biological mothers think that the biological mother thinks that she has to care about her parents' old age and illness, and Jin Yuan is a brother, so her daughter must be like her. The hardship she has suffered must be like her." "Mother-in-law, go to the stream to wash clothes. Before I love this, please don't use a washing machine, because there was no before. "My mother-in-law used to live in ancient times, I can explain it! But …. It's already 2024. Is it okay to sell which traditional brain bag? Cook noodles, wash dishes, silhouette clothes, take out garbage and buy vegetables … it must be made!"

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5 Guidelines for improving the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over the past New Year

The Chinese New Year is the most likely day to have problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. How to get along smoothly during the past New Year is a subject that many daughter-in-law and mother-in-law want to be right. Here are some suggestions to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law over the past New Year:

1. Communication and understanding: The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should sit down and communicate in a practical way, and understand the other party’s position and expectations. Through communication, common points can be found and problems can be solved. The mother-in-law can share her value view and experience, and the daughter-in-law can also express her thoughts and feelings.

2. Respect and tolerance: Both parties should respect the other party’s role and contributions. The mother-in-law should understand the pressure of modern life and respect the personal space and needs of the daughter-in-law. At the same time, the daughter-in-law should also respect her mother-in-law's experience and viewpoints.

3. Dividing family: Family activities should be the responsibility of all family members to share. Both parties can discuss and coordinate the division of labor between home and family to ensure fairness and rationality. For example, you can wash dishes by wheeling, or entrust external services to handle a portion of your home.

4. Flexibility and coordination: Both parties should maintain a flexible and coordinated attitude. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may need to make some moves to meet each other's needs and expectations. This requires both parties to be willing to try new ways and solutions.

5. Cherish family time: The epoch is the time for family gathering, and both parties should cherish this opportunity and create a beautiful memory together. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can prepare food or order New Year's dishes together, enjoy family dinners, and strengthen each other's emotional connection through common activities.

In general, improving the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law requires the efforts and patience of both parties. Through communication, respect, sharing of family affairs, flexibility and coordination, and cherishing family time, we can create a more harmonious and beautiful family atmosphere and have a happy New Year.