88-year-old Mrs. Weiwei: Women may not have a boyfriend, but they must have a girlfriend

When psychological counselors and two-sex experts are not yet popular, who do women have any questions? Mrs. Vivi. This name is in Taiwan, and young people probably thought it was a net red (such as the wife of science); however, in that year, it was a source of pressure suppression in Taiwan, and it was through books and letters to communicate with each other. Now that Mrs. Vivi is 88 years old, has the troubles of Taiwanese women changed? She published a new book, "Girlfriend Better Better", which is like sharing the wisdom of women's life.

has written a column leader in "United News" for 26 years and hosted the Chinese Women's Program "Today". His works will have nearly 20 books. In the past, he was the most influential female writer in Taiwan. More than a year ago, she moved from her home in Tamsui River to the Mount Kaisheng Village and continued to create.

She promised: "I have to write a diary every day" - it is not written on paper, but recorded on the iPad, writing manuscripts, finding information, and communicating with my children and girlfriends. It is completed in a unified machine and learning the new 3C products is not bad at all. For her, the change in the environment is not difficult to adapt.

However, she is not very suitable for the well-known name "Madam Weiwei", and admitted that she actually doesn't like it at all. She said that her personality is more boyish than boyish, and her friends actually like her "Boss Wei". Her 88-year-old life seems to be redefined, and she lives more autonomously and confidently.

When I was a child, I talked to a girl. After writing a special column, I thought the girl was so cute.

Mrs. Vivi was a real name, Lesbian. She was as famous as a British man. She was so angry that she was treated as a "son" by her mother since she was young. She shaved her hair, slapped her in the mud, and climbed trees to fight.

For the delicate and sensitive girl, she was completely unfair and admitted that "I was very sorry for girls when I was a child." When she read "Red House Dream", Lin Daiyu always gimmicked "Why is this person so cute?"

Until her adult logistics submission, she was selected by the editor of "United News" in 1972, and invited her to become a column writer, and also designated to write for "woman readers". She searched for information and asked her to teach her. Experts, plus various reversals and practices, realized that "girls are really so cute."

However, when she first saw her column on the newspaper, she also edited and asked her to name "Madam Vivi", she just wanted to "Who is this?" With the article's extensive coverage, her name when she debuted was like a shadow. The words she wrote have been like a warm light for decades, shining the hearts of many female readers.

The method of teaching and nurturing for fathers, why should girls live in a straight line?

Madam Weiwei was born in a traditional era of folk style and did not grow up under the eyes of a gentle man or a woman. In modern terms, it is "being yourself". She contributed to the teaching methods of teaching for fathers, which gave great freedom.

The father once told her and her sister, "You can do anything boys do." She was not good at long-term life, and the father said proudly, "No need to learn, there will be machines." She loved to play, and the father said, "You don't have to be so serious about reading books."

"I am not restrained by traditional women, so I can better develop my nature." She also brought this attitude to the children and taught her daughter: "Don't think that I am just a girl"; when washing dishes and doing housework, the son also needs to divide the labor.

Family is like a "die". Women should have their own interests

Mrs. Weiwei treats children's achievements and has a different goal of universal utilitarianism. "Most children in the country go to the stage must set off firecrackers, but our family has no firecrackers to set off." She only asked the child: "What do you like?" She fully supported the women in pursuit of dreams, asking them to choose the path they like and walk them steadily.

She described the family as a "die". The wife, husband and children, are equally important. "Women should live their own lives and have their own interests." However, many women write letters to her to complain about their worries, and the most confusing thing is often the problem of marriage.

Wiwei scolded them and asked herself first: "Do you still love him? If you love him, accept him. If you can't accept him, let him go. There is no intention to die."

But the readers' responses often come to "I can't change" and "I just can't do it". When she asked her, she felt angry and thought it was difficult to help others get out of the predicament.

She believes that the times have changed. Although modern women have more freedom, their only feelings are still unrelaxed. She wrote, "Some women are really like beauty fish, and love is the only one in life; but the tail is in control of the direction. Once lost, life will certainly have no direction."

"Women have endless possibilities. As long as they have a direction and release their potential, they will let life travel in the sea of ​​life intact and fullness." Mrs. Weiwei said.

Practice the calves every day for 10 minutes, take 100 faces on clear water in the morning and evening, and see that Mrs. Weiwei's facial features are deep. In the past old photos, her appearance is like a movie star, and she still has tight skin today. When she changed her phone, the sales lady looked at her identity certificate and said in surprise: "You have fought against the war! It doesn't look like you!"

Many people were curious, what secret recipe does she have for her 88-year-old? She thought about it and felt that her lips were no longer red and white. "The body will age and the bones will age, but keep yourself the best."

She believed that to maintain the impression of "favoriteness", there was no need to spend too much money. She uses unsheathed makeup to afford the people, which is a good effect, but she pairs it with a diligent action: use clean water to pat the face 100 times in the morning and evening, which can smoothly circulate the face and maintain a good color.

In order to maintain muscle strength, she maintains a high degree of self-discipline and trains her calves every day for more than 10 minutes.. During the trip, old friend Liu Jingjuan couldn't open the bottle. As a result, she picked it up and opened it immediately, making the other party very disgusted.

A woman may not have a boyfriend, but she must have a girlfriend

"A woman may not have a boyfriend, but she must have a girlfriend." Mrs. Vivi once said this.

At the age of 30, Mrs. Weiwei originally worked at National Taiwan University Hospital and was a central-level vocational member. She was paid stable and had no trouble in life. She was just "I feel very troublesome, so boring!" Therefore, when Lin Haiyin asked her to go to the "Chinese Daily" to be the editor of the family version, she agreed to the transfer without saying a word, and then started her completely different life experiences in the future.

"I often think there are many valuables." She remembered the people who first asked her to edit, write columns, host programs, or give her a hand during every stage of her life, and wanted to vote for more friendly reports to the world.

Now, in her communication software, there is a group called "Boss Wei Help". The members include literary fellows such as Jianwan, Fang Zi, and Liao Yuhui. They are on average ten years younger than her. They don't see the separation, but they can also travel abroad, gather in hot meetings from time to time, becoming each other's old companions.

Boss Wei has a friend's law. Regardless of age or background, friends should be "equality". If there is a level difference, they will never be able to be friends. Those who are arrogant or inferior will eventually leave. Therefore, if you open yourself first, others will naturally report you with an open attitude.

Regarding the sex of a friend, she believes that "men can talk to the sky, but women can talk to each other." Sometimes, there are emotional fluctuations that men may not necessarily understand, and women can talk deeply, overcome the irritability in their mood and solve the problem. "Some people say that my daughter is a little cotton wool that my mother is wearing, and so is my girlfriend."

"Fate" is the answer without an answer. There is no reason

The proud Mrs. Vivi, the most difficult class in her life, was that her eldest son fell from a high place while working on the stage when she was 26 years old and died unexpectedly.

As mother, she had been working as usual, and while she was working, she opened the car tightly on the windows and cried on the mountain road. Even though she is a writer, she feels deeply that "no words can comfort the people in the end."

"Time can cure injuries, and injuries will be covered by a layer of them, but they will never disappear." There are many things in her life, but in fact she can only recognize that we are "unable to do it."

Many years later, she read the "Big Master" in "The Legend of the Concubine" written by Professor Wang Bangxiong, in which Zi Sang cried and asked her parents why she gave birth to me and made me suffer. Professor Wang's explanation is: "Fate is a reason for no reason, a reason for no reason, and an answer without an answer. This is the final answer, and we cannot continue to ask. There is no reasonable explanation, and if we are unreasonable, we cannot survive. Isn't it "fate"? Is it easy to release it now."

She comforted many people The reader who died of family members, "Nothing can be changed, so let it go, just recognize your life, and you will be relieved."

"I often think that my son has traveled to the world, very free." In Mrs. Vivi's painting, the grown son looked at his young self, as if he was looking back at the origin of life, and as if he was saying goodbye to the past.

Mrs. Weiwei turned her feelings for her son into great love. She helped her children in Srilanka for a long time. Every time she received a card from the other end of the earth during the Jewish holiday, she would collect it with precious places. "They can do so much with a little money and be so grateful." Helping others can actually save herself.

The light boat has passed thousands of mountains, and people will eventually be imported into the sea of ​​the universe

Mrs. Weiwei likes the sea. The unobstructed beauty of the sea has fascinated her. In many past paintings, she has depicted the beautiful fish in the sea and can bravely withstand waves and adversity.

"Don't think that you can't do anything when you are old, and don't forget that you are old and nothing is wrong." She often remembered what a doctor said to her.

She studied paintings in her old age, read various books and programs, and fully enjoyed freedom. Her favorite TV program is CSI of criminal reasoning. In addition, she also loves to explore the ecology of the universe and nature, which makes her understand how great the world is and how small the person is. "If you are willing to be honest with people, you can keep your mind open."

If one day your life will bid farewell, she will also decide to choose a sea burial. She had long noted "An Ning and Willing" on her health insurance card, and told her child calmly that she would not have first aid intubation if she encountered any illness. "No need for a can or a piece of it. I am not here anymore. What are the others going to see?" At the end of her life, she summed up in this way: "The boat has passed thousands of mountains and has been imported into the sea of ​​the universe." It seems to have disappeared, but it has never disappeared.

Original text: 88-year-old elegant Mrs. Weiwei: Women may not have a boyfriend, but they must have a girlfriend