"In those years, our stories..." The continuous piles of experiences have enriched our lives!

"People are not crazy and ruthless." When they were young, they used a wave of excitement to burn their passion, and tried, explore and experience in life, work, and even making friends.

It is precisely because of this kind of experience that we can slowly understand what we really like through the experience. To deeply understand ourselves, we need to go through the tempering and sunshine of "year-old months" to show the thickness of our own life.

{9 9} In those years, our stories……

After entering society, after entering society, we began to have the opportunity to verify it in life. At the same time, because there are more and more spaces in life that can be independent, we have formed a differentiation, gradually shaping personal interests, values, and individual display and behavior in life. Of course, it also includes the interactive mode between people.

The first set of cosmetics, the first car, the first salary, the first self-service trip, the heart-wrenching failure, the once passionate and bloody persistence, these past stories are all profound experiences we have experienced.

If these experiences are allowed to pass simply in our lives, life is just a pile of events, the wounds of the past are still invisible and painful, and the glory that has been once faded may have faded.

If you can, as you slowly learn to sort out those journeys, you will feel the feelings you bring, and then understand the transformations these experiences bring to you, things that were not enough to be completed, words that could not be spoken, or people and things that you didn’t want to face, now you can look at them again, and you can give us new comments and enrich our lives.

In the process of exploring oneself, talking to oneself in the past, and shaping oneself in experience, this is what we are talking about "me". It is not a linear state, but a holistic and multi-faceted integration. Organize yourself from past events, and such experiences can be transferred to various situations in some cases.

Preface an example. In the learning stage, everyone has some experience of hugging the Buddha at the moment! I will only study hard when I encounter an exam. One side of it, and the other side of it regrets that I have not revisited it before. The anxiety and regretful mood is magnificent with the belief that I am preparing for the exam.

"After this exam, I must do my best to do my class and don't hold my feet at once!" However, these agreements often disappear with the end of the exam. Until before the next exam, this tug anxiety began to rise again, and I regretted the beginning again. After learning from my pain, I began to change my study habits. Finally, when facing the exam, I no longer had such great anxiety and regret pressure, and my class performance gradually improved.

So, in this experience, there are emotional reactions to the exam, reflections on the writing patterns, impulses and breakthroughs in starting actions, and there is also the expectation that I can get a good result. Like this, take a seemingly ordinary experience, explore the more detailed self at that time, see the hidden messages and inner voices, the force of bearing pressure, and the potential to reverse adversity.

Just like this, when you organize yourself, you also use the first perspective to witness your past self and see the value of your breakthrough.

Staying experiences constantly, we will be grateful for our lives

Sometimes we say, "He has experienced the training of life, so no matter what kind of big waves he encounters, I believe that he has the ability to respond." As life experience increases, we use these accumulated experiences to enrich ourselves and respond to the difficulties or changes we are currently facing.

Some experiences in life can be adapted. When we calm down and organize our past experiences, this process is to help ourselves understand the transformation of each life, our own value, decision patterns, or pressure tolerance. Life practice becomes the guide for exploring ourselves, which is what we call "shaping ourselves with experience."

Experiences can be with you or share them. When you share your experiences or ideas with others, the rewards you get are the communication of knowledge and emotions between people. At the same time, it also increases others' understanding of you, reduces the separation between people and creates close friendships. Improvements in human relations have increased our confidence in ourselves and received support to make life more lively and dynamic.

Of course, some of your experiences, thoughts or feelings are not suitable to reveal to others that you will choose to keep them in mind, belong to your own world, and try to use dialogue to feel your deep self when you are alone.

We had an appointment with our friends to chat in the cafe, whether it was Chen Nian’s past, his career, or a journey I had just had not long ago, and the box opened as we chatted. When words always mention "before and once", it means that although that thing has passed, it still has an impact on you. This impact may bring a different new body and feelings when the event occurs.

For example, the intense and reflexive relationship that year, I looked back several years later, and became a question of talking to my friends: "I really don't know what I fell in love with him at that time?" However, for you at that time, getting out of the pain of this relationship was a very painful and grinding process. Maybe the pain caused by this relationship was not cured a few years ago, but only after the depression of self-talk can you open your heart and tell the story of the repetitions in your heart at that time..

In addition, when you encounter a lost experience of touching, tragic, or a creator experience in a certain life, there will be similar situations. If you have passed, it will become the foundation of life and show your power.

See the pain and cherish the unique experience

In the moment of injuring, we usually put things and feelings in our hearts. Only we ourselves know the life story at this time. No one can know it from others, especially when facing this kind of loss, they are prone to pretend to be strong, not talking about their own feelings and opinions, nor wanting to hear other people’s perceptions of this matter, and just want to stay in their own world.

When I think I can get out of the pain, I will tell people who trust and are close to me a little bit, listen to other people's reactions, and then go back to my own silence to lick the wound that has not yet been completely compatible. Until you are ready, try to talk more about your own situation. It was slowly discovered that everyone had different opinions or evaluations about this matter, which may be encouragement, or perhaps lightly describing the response, or expressing the co-fire.

Maybe someone will say to you, "It can help you feel your mood, because this is the experience that everyone has." That's right, who has no lost experience? Who hasn't gotten frustrated? Who will not be frustrated and self-responsible for failing the exam? Anyone has fallen, but even so, that experience is still unique to me, and we don’t have to erase our feelings and experiences.

When we can find a supportive force, our self-relaxation comes out, and even occasionally talks about it, they will joke or laugh at themselves: "Why were you so stupid at that time?" or: "If I could go back to the beginning, I would definitely not have done anything." Just like many people feel moved by life, if youth can come back again, they may not choose to spend their days in a waste, but understand the principles of being responsible for life.

※This article is excerpted from Bosizhiku's "Being with Yourself: Retrieving the Stable Power of No Tightness"